In my most anxiety-ridden time, I was trying to escape it by numbing out with overworking, overeating, over-cleaning, people-pleasing, and, hating on myself. I didn’t know how to manage anxiety so I just kept busy doing something - anything.
Now, I have a plethora of tools that I can use with confidence that help me recognize and manage anxiety and panic when it arrives on my front door. That’s what’s different about this approach. I can picture myself living this way and using these tools for the rest of my life, because the tools are not hard to implement and support my well-being.
Does this sound familiar?
I used to agonize over what to do - coudn’t make decision. Would I hurt that person’s feelings? Would I let down my boss? What if I make the wrong decision? What if I’m sick? After a stretch of mental agony I would be so strung out that I would distract myself by doing something completely off-topic and not resolving the issue.
Then I’d still have to make whatever decision I put off. And I’d then be disappointed in myself for procrastinating.
Now I have habits in place that support a calm mind. I also plan out my days. If it’s not in my plan for the day, I don’t do it. And when I do go off my plan, I’m kind to myself. I don’t mentally berate myself or call myself a loser or shame myself. Instead, I investigate. What was I thinking and feeling that led me to that choice?
Learning to use my conscious brain to plan my day (instead of my primitive brain) has been so freeing. It’s made my life so much easier and eliminated all the mental drama I used to create and allow.
If you’re ready to lose the mind chatter and drama in a sustainable way, come along for the ride with me. Learn more about how to work with me.